Episode 227: The Lesson In Trying

Today's lesson in trying came from a recent direct message I received from someone on Instagram, who shared with me that she's very unhappy with her life but told me she was "trying." Over the course of the conversation, it became apparent to me that all she was doing was thinking about taking action but never really doing anything to make changes.

So I took that as a sign to add this topic as a great "lesson learned" topic!

Like I mention at the beginning, the word "try" isn't always disempowering. It depends on the context with which it's used. The point I'm making is we often use it as an excuse to get out of something we need to get done.

So listen in to what I've learned, as both a user of the word myself and hearing it often as a coach, how it's one of those words you need to watch for, and my best tips for what to do when it crosses your lips which I include here as follows:

• Start to be aware of how often you use it and notice when other people use it.
• Why did you feel the need to use it? Are you really making it a maybe? What are the chances you'll actually do it?
• What is behind the lack of commitment? Dig into that! (Listen to my examples of possible reasons that may be causing this.)

Are you "trying" a lot but not getting much done? Then I suggest you start replacing "I'm gonna try to do it." with "I AM going to do it." and see how that feels. Don't be afraid to commit and get the damn thing done! It WILL make a difference in your life!!!

P.S. The book I mentioned is called "Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life: How to Unlock Your Full Potential for Achievement and Success" by Brian Tracy. I read this book a few years ago and it was a game changer for me as I began setting big goals for my second half.